Tidy Kidz wants to hear from YOU! What are your major household issues when it comes to kids? Throwing clothes on the floor, not cleaning up the dishes, forgetting to feed the dog, leaving drinks and trash in the backseat of the newly cleaned car? Having a little help addressing these types of things can go a long way for the harmony of the entire family. You can leave a reply or email us @ tidykidz@gmail.com. Let Tidy Kidz help!
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Here’s the situation. You’ve worked hard all week, everyone is still alive and healthy, the bills are paid (or will be), and now it’s time to ~~~CLEAN THE HOUSE.~~~ No matter what the kids ages are (although older is tougher), you DREAD in the most intense of ways even uttering the words, “Ok kids, let’s clean up the house and get the chores done,” or whatever your method is for delivering the perceived death sentence. I hear this dread from parents all the time and I understand because it was the worst thing my Mom could say to me when I was a kid… instantly turning this Saturday morning soccer star into a fit throwing, convulsing, whining, death welcoming little pile of tears and grunts, and sent me stomping off to my room mumbling something about how I was going to die and cleaning is soooooo boring!
Tell me she didn't just say what I think she said!
No one wants to start their weekends off with that kind of drama but it keeps happening… and for some, the weekend doesn’t even start until that drama-sode is over! How sad is that? Well, here are some things to think about to help you muster up the energy and courage to embark on your next quest for a cleaner, tidier household and stop the next round of stomach virus sharing 
1) Congrats! – You deserve an award for even asking your family to help with the keeping of the castle! You have already saved yourself from the wrongs of just doing it all yourself because “you want it done right and as quickly as possible.” So here’s your trophy
Winner!
2) Whether you’re getting much help with cleaning or not, deep down there is a feeling of guilt. That guilt stems from the idea that you should be doing more for your family and you really should be doing a better job of keeping the house clean and beautiful. You may even go so far as to think you’re wrong to expect help. That’s all in your head…SCRAP IT! Your family will pick up on that and you will not be able to approach the subject with the level of confidence necessary to solicit the help you need, hence… increased drama!
3) You are teaching your kids so much more than how to clean! This is teamwork! You’re teaching them team building skills, social skills, communication, good hygiene, time management, organization, respect….it’s practically endless. You are helping them build habits that will serve them well the rest of their days on this planet… you are being a great parent!!!
Success
So, the next time you get ready to announce the castle cleaning, smile and think of it this way… it’s not so much about the cleaning, really. Focus on the end result… GOOD HABITS taught by you, the GREAT Parent! You’re kids may start to realize it’s not really that big of a deal and the more they do it the faster they get and the less they have to think about it. REALITY BONUS: They might even realize that keeping up with things a little better during the week makes cleaning day wayyy easier! Triumph!
REMEMBER: You are a GREAT PARENT and the drama is all in their heads… not yours! 
TKMom
I don’t know about anyone else out there but school hasn’t even started yet and I’m already starting to shudder at the thought of all that schoolwork flooding in my door and onto the kitchen table and every other flat surface in the house. I love to see the progress my 3 little geniuses are making in school but that coupled with the mail can quickly become a literal paper mountain. We have trays set up for the kids to minimize the scatter during the week and it works like a charm. “Scan-Man” takes us one step closer to spacial bliss
I have decided to start the “Scan-Man” up and get him rockin’ this year. Each of us will have a folder on the computer for any papers we want to keep around but don’t necessarily need to have a physical copy handy. Scanners are relatively inexpensive and you may want to pick up a paper shredder while you’re at it since you won’t need to FILE it anymore. I get all fired up just typing that line There will be plenty of sales coming up with school starting so keep your eye open for deals. We’ll certainly post any we find!
Change is good!
Take a moment to think about how much paper storage you have in your house right now…. all of it… even in the attic! This is 2009…make the change to storing it on the computer and free up some much needed space around the house. Of course you will need to hang on to some precious items – don’t go scanning and shredding little Johnnie’s kindergarten art project.
Can you feel the open space?
TKMom
Space to moooove
Nice bins
Are you are one of those people who really WANTS to start recycling but just can’t quite seem to get into the habit of it? One VERY useful way to get yourself on the fast track is by getting the kids involved. If your kids are school age odds are they are far more knowledgeable about recycling than you are anyway. Recycling is something kids learn a lot about in school these days and is by far one of the easier subjects for you to reinforce at home. I dare you to try to do the 2nd grade math homework! After reading the directions aloud, then again, then once more to myself out of sheer desperation, I find myself saying apologetically to my 2nd grader, “Wait until Daddy gets home, he’ll know what to do.” Then I head off to the kitchen with my humble pie :-0
Check out these easy steps to making your house a green house. (Beats the heck out of the math homework!)
Recycle America
When was the last time you took your shoes off and walked around on the grass awhile? How about the last time you sat on the porch and watched the rain or a beautiful sunset? This is a magical world we live in!
Last week I stood on the porch and watched a spectacular lightening storm and my 7 year old bravely came out to join me for a few minutes. I said,”Mother Nature sure is somethin’ isn’t she Bella?” She said, “Yeah! I should meet Mother Nature, we have things to talk about.”
Happy Recycling – TKMom
little tomorrows
Road Trip!
Does the thought of a 3 hour ride in the car or 4 hour flight with your kids threaten your ability to even look forward to a vacation? Do you start apologizing to people sitting around you and your kids on a flight before you even get off the ground?
I recently took a flight to Miami which is relatively short from Tennessee but for one Mom… it was an eternity! She was traveling with her two boys, ages 2 and 4 and they literally put her through the ringer (not to mention the rest of us). They kept Mom moving constantly between the two of them… “I need a snack, I want his toy”. While the 2 year old constantly kicked the seat in front of him the 4 year old dropped his toys in the aisle repeatedly. They both constantly put the tray table up and down and that alone nearly caused Mom to lose her sanity. It was like Mom was on a swivel being spun like cotton candy. You know what cotton candy looks like when it’s done… all fuzzy and puffed up!
I really felt for her because she had obviously made an effort to keep the kids occupied during the trip by bringing toys and snacks but there was one thing missing that held the potential to prevent her flight from hell. The missing element was SURPRISE!!!
Try this next time you travel and you may actually hear the sound of silence again for the first time
Prepare a small travel bag or box for each of your kids with toys that are new to them. If they bring toys from home they tend to get bored very quickly because they already know how to work them and all the limitations. Fill the box with unfamiliar toys… often times these can be simple things like a deck of cards for a game of go fish, a Slinky, Play-dough, Rubik’s cube, a brand new coloring book or comic book, a stamp book with a set of new stamps and stickers, or a new video game they haven’t played if they have the handheld games. Also think about downloading a movie they haven’t seen to your iPOD or MP3 player.
As for snacks, put some things in there that keep the mouth busy such as a pack of gum, suckers, sunflower seeds, and peanuts or pistachios in the shell. These also help with problem of plugged up ears.
I’m sure you can think of many more items that suit your kids individual tastes and personalities. Often times, the kids end up swapping stuff on the way back… it’s spectacular!
Traveling with kids can be a challenge but it doesn’t have to ruin your trip. We have had many successful trips by using this little trick and it’s worth spending a few bucks for the sanity of all
Happy travels!
Have a great 4th of July!!
Who wouldn’t want a jar of good deeds noticed, to constantly remind us of how awesome we are everyday? I would.
The cool thing about what we simply call “the marble jar” is this – it changes with your kids! This is something we’ve been doing with our kids for years and it still gets the attention of the oldest who is now 13. It’s easy to implement, very effective and really builds positive behavior.
First things first, here is what you will need:
1. One clear acrylic container per child (preferably with a lid)
2. Lots of marbles – more than one color is good but not neccessary
3. One large clear marble container – a bowl or canister
THAT’S IT!!!!!
Secondly, here are the guidelines:
The kids begin accumulating marbles for their good deeds. We have always given them for deeds that were spontaneous and things the kids had not been instructed to do or say. Here are a couple of examples:
My son shared his snack at the pool with his younger sister who forgot hers at home. He really wanted his snack and had mentioned how hungry he was but shared it anyway. I noticed his generosity and told him he gets marbles to put in his jar when he gets home. In this case it was two marbles but you can tailor it to fit your style. (I didn’t even have to remind him to get the marbles when we got home… he went straight to it)
I occasionally ask my 13 yr old to clean out/up her closet because it has the tendency to be her place to stuff, cram, throw, stack and store anything and everything. I usually have to ask 2 or 3 times before she kinda “gets around to it.” She recently said, “Sure Mom” to a closet cleaning request and to my surprise, went straight up and took care of business! For her that was monumental so she got 3 marbles… and when I said she got 3 marbles she was proud as peacock with her 3 little marbles! 
He Who Giveth Can Taketh Away! If someone says or does something nasty, ugly, vile or vicious. Or simply doesn’t do what they’re asked in some obviously disrespectful way – then they are coughing up marbles and oooooeey they don’t like to give those marbles back!
We assigned a value of approximately 33 cents to each marble and cash them in at the end of the week or two weeks – whatever works. What makes the marbles magic for us as parents is how they take on the friction of the difficult situations instead of every issue being the Kids vs. Us.
This works like magic… our kids still get all wide eyed and perky when we utter those esteem building words, “Go get some marbles.” It’s so incredibly important that we noticed the good deed done! Soon you will notice they are looking for ways to earn marbles - positively marble-ous!
p.s. kids like to see their marbles piling up in the container which is why it’s really important that it’s clear!!
For those with multiple “blessings,” may this be as successful a tool for you as it was for me. When making specific and direct requests of your kids – instead of putting the focus on the one who is non-compliant by threatening consequences, assign a special reward to the one that complies quickly and thoroughly.
Here is an example of what I mean:
At the pool today, I gave all 3 of my kids a very direct expectation that when 7:30 came, I would signal them to get out of the pool to dry off and get ready to go home. Two of the three were messing around and jumped back in the pool a couple of times but the third child stayed out of the pool from the moment I waived the signal and walked over to me to dry off and go home (surprisingly, not the one I would have guessed). That child was told he would get an extra scoop of ice cream for dessert while the other two got the normal allotment. The two non-compliant kids looked at me with perplexity because they weren’t really being punished but they didn’t get the reward either. They could not really complain or protest because of the obviousness of their lack of concern for the respectfully and clearly laid-out request. I have to admit, I was feeling pretty clever!
Victorious!
This is a fun way to get kids started cleaning up in any super messy room-ADVENTURE STYLE! Ideally this works best with more than one mate but if all the others have walked the plank and one mate is all that’s left then so be it! (As long as the one mate left isn’t you, then this would just be weird)
Take a big piece of paper and put a giant red X on it. This X goes on the floor in the middle of the room and an unknown reward written on a small piece of paper goes underneath (don’t let them see this part). The reward should be something of particular interest to the mates involved in the adventure (this promotes auto-participation in the next adventure, of which there will surely be one). Everyone gets to pick a pirate name of course and they must speak in their best pirate voices throughout the entire adventure. If they have pirate dress-up clothes – by all means let them dress for the occasion!
All of the items around the ship(room) that are causing the ship’s deck to be a wreck are picked up and placed on the big red X. I mean everything from the clothes to stuffed animals to coloring books and so on gets piled on this X. Once the pile is complete – the mates look around the room and put away any remaining debris hanging around.
Now it’s time to get to the bottom of the pile and find out what is under that big red X! This is when you let the mates know there is treasure under that red X and they can’t see what it is until all the items in the pile are put in their proper place and the red X can be lifted. They will be scooting around the room like little deckhands in a hurry. If you have any pirate songs on CD play those too!
Side note: make sure the reward is something that can be redeemed fairly quickly after the task has been completed. Not trying to promote instant gratification but for this tip – the quicker the better on the reward end. Total prep time is about 4 minutes to get this rolling.
This little gem also works well with a cowboy theme -YEEHAAA MATES!
TKMate
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